A man asked me that question when I made a distinction between “sex object” and “sexy.”
Sexual objectification isn’t about being sexy or sexual so much as being sexy for someone else while you don’t matter. Read the rest of this entry
The world’s suavest spy would appear to be an unlikely standard bearer for feminism; until now.
Daniel Craig calls James Bond a misogynist.
And he doesn’t want to play him again. Or more specifically:
I’d rather break this glass and slash my wrists… All I want to do is move on.
But he’s worked to make the Bond franchise more feminist. Read the rest of this entry
• What are the tyrannies you swallow?
• What do you need to say?
• What are the words you do not yet have?
In the days after undergoing a biopsy to see whether a tumor taken from her breast was malignant, Audre Lorde examined her life.
What she most regretted were her silences. Read the rest of this entry
HBO’s “Girls” is an exploration of young women’s sexuality today, so I was struck by a scene that the New York Times’ Frank Bruni described as being all about what “he” wants “her” to do:
(“Hannah’s”) back is to her boyfriend, who seems to regard her as an inconveniently loquacious halfway point between partner and prop, and her concern is whether she’s correctly following instructions.
‘So I can just stay like this for a little while?’ she asks. ‘Do you need me to move more?’
Last October, my neighbor stretched synthetic cobwebs among the branches of her tree. Against this creepy backdrop, she hung a broomstick and a badly made female figure, clearly a witch. The sight made me wince.
How did we evolve to find this display lightly amusing? Our forbearers did hang women from trees.
Imagine men in Speedos plastered all over billboards, drawing your attention to this product or that.
Sexy? Or does it seem kind of gay?
A lot of women think it seems kind of gay. But why is that? Read the rest of this entry
Okay, Ryan didn’t merely copy her. He did bring his own style to her music and lyrics.
But really? Maybe he deserves ALL the credit for his album’s profundity? Read the rest of this entry
Sexual objectification can have its perks in the bedroom, with breast fetishes and butt fetishes heightening men’s arousal.
But surprisingly, it can have the opposite effect, harming both men’s and women’s enjoyment. And in many ways. Here’s one: self-objectification. Read the rest of this entry