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Gay Porn Stars Have More Fun

Why do women watch gay porn?

Why do women watch gay porn?

Why do women watch gay porn in large numbers if they don’t find penises arousing?

That’s what “Claire” wondered. Read the rest of this entry

Hooking Up Deprives Women of Marriage?

College hookup culture?

College hookup culture?

Women should stop hooking up because it stalls men’s maturity and keeps them from getting married. A lot of young women will never marry because men can get sex without commitment.

That’s what what a young man told me a few weeks ago. Read the rest of this entry

Dating Lessons From OkCupid

Ok, Cupid

Ok, Cupid

by Lisa Wade, PhD @ Sociological Images

Dating site OKCupid did an analysis of 500,000 inquiry messages to determine what keywords correlate most strongly with getting a reply.  It has some great lessons about dating and some counter-stereotypical news about what heterosexual women want from men. Read the rest of this entry

Feminism Kills Japanese Libido? 

Japanese libido

Japanese libido

Japan is dead last in sexual satisfaction. Some blame feminism.

Really?

The stats:

  • Singles aged 18-34 who don’t want a romantic relationship: Men: 28% Women: 23%
  • Singles aged 16 to 24 who are uninterested in sexual relationships: Women: 45%  Men: 25%

“Grass-eating boys” or “herbivores,” as the guys are called, have no real interest in: Read the rest of this entry

Virginity: Double Binds & Double Standards

Lost your virginity?

Lost your virginity?

By Sabrina Szpetkowski 

A close friend called me one morning, crying and asking me to come to her house.

When I got there I found her crumpled up on her bed. She told me that she had lost her virginity to her boyfriend the night before and she felt disgusting. She worried that if they ever broke up she wouldn’t be able to find someone else who would want to be with her because she wasn’t a virgin. Read the rest of this entry

Women Aren’t Visual? It Depends

Marky Mark

Marky Mark

You say that most women don’t find the penis visually arousing. Really? I, personally, find the penis arousing… Do you have any studies to back up your statement?

That’s a question from “Claire.” Read the rest of this entry

Sexual Satisfaction Tied to Gender Equality

Gender equality = sexual equality

Gender equality = sexual equality

When I ask my students how many of them have heard of girls being slut-shamed in high school, they all have.

Meanwhile, as I’ve mentioned before, around half of American women have experienced sexual dysfunction: low desire, no desire, painful sex and difficulty climaxing.

Women enjoy sexuality much more in places where women and men have greater equality. Read the rest of this entry

Caitlyn Jenner: More Than Sexy?

Caitlyn Jenner

Caitlyn Jenner

We rejoice at Caitlyn Jenner’s courage and happiness as she transitions, bodily, to womanhood.

But as she “came out” so did some disturbing truths about how we value women, says Rhonda Garelick in a New York Times piece. In a Vanity Fair spread,

Ms. Jenner poses in skintight dresses, a cinched black lace corset and two different gold evening gowns … She lounges on a sofa, peers into mirrors or reclines with her head thrown back, eyes closed… (appearing) languid and glamorous, her body still and on display rather than performing any activity…

This seems less the liberation of a true self than a reminder of the straitjacket requirements of acceptable, desirable womanhood.

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Why Endure Excruciating Hookups? 

Bad sex

Bad sex

Some women enjoy hooking up when it’s “friends with benefits.” Or if not friends, at least sex without malevolence.

Other times ya gotta wonder why they do it.

Women having bad sex

Like women who have sex with 13 men (at different times) but without pleasure. Because it’s about his pleasure and not hers. Or women who feel reduced to sex toys. Or women who “just want to get it over with.”  Or women who say, Read the rest of this entry

What Women Want. What Men Think They Do

feet-2When I first started kissing boys I remember noticing things, certain behaviors, where I thought, ‘There’s no way you learned that anywhere but on YouPorn.com. There’s no way any teenage girl taught you and reinforced that behavior.’

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