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How Sex Creates Gender

Sex creates gender

Sex creates gender

Sex — the verb, and everything surrounding it — help create gender.

Like when some guys discourage other guys from relationships, and pressure random sex.

What’s that got to do with gender? What it means to be a woman or a man? Read the rest of this entry

Women Are More Sexually Fluid

sexual fluidity-2Women seem to be more sexually fluid than men.

Queens University Prof. Meredith Chivers found that when women viewed naked bodies in foreplay, they  spent more time looking at women.  Read the rest of this entry

Feminism Is Good For Men, Too

Gender equality is good for men — and for everyone, says CUNY Professor, Michael Kimmel, expert on men and masculinity, and all-around good guy.

Check out his TED Talk. (I summarize his main points below — and add a few of my own.)


How is gender equality good for men? And for everyone? Read the rest of this entry

Women Making Love to Themselves

Are you turned on?

Are you turned on?

Being desired is the orgasm.

That’s true for women, anyway. So says Marta Meana, who studies sexuality at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Women are most turned on by feeling irresistible to their lovers, she adds. Read the rest of this entry

Back to School, I Mean Rape Culture

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

As college women returned to school this fall, some were welcomed back to rape culture.

A few college boys who haven’t yet grown into man-sized shoes unravelled banners shouting:

Freshman Daughter Drop-Off

Hope your baby girl is ready for a good time

Go ahead and drop mom off too Read the rest of this entry

The Most Important Thing For a Woman: Be Hot

Las Vegas billboard

Las Vegas billboard

Many young women think that the most important thing is to be hot. And in a very narrow way.

It’s no wonder. They’re bombarded by narrowly sexy images.

Go to Google Images and type “sexy images” or “sexy fantasies.” About 99% of the pics will be of women.

What? Men aren’t sexy?

And why do they all look alike. Isn’t variety the spice of life?

Go to Las Vegas and take a look at the billboards. About 99% will be sexy ladies. Read the rest of this entry

Patriarchy Drains Our Confidence

A man is not a financial plan-2

A man is not a financial plan-2

By Kloranne Kambou

Like some Westerners, a woman in my country — the Republic of Congo — may see a man as a financial plan.

Maybe that’s not surprising since our culture lifts men above women and gives us fewer opportunities.

When a woman births a boy she gains respect. He will become head of his own family — which he will rule and provide for. Only boys can pass on the heritage of their fathers.

Growing up, I saw women arise early to do laundry, cook, clean and work in the fields. Men slept as long as they wanted. When the men finally did wake up and come for breakfast, they were served first. They were also served first for every other meal.

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Objectification & Male Self-Esteem

man objectifying womanWhy do men objectify women?

Jason Gavis asked men that question on his Facebook page and wrote about their replies for The Good Men Project. Here’s one answer he got:

For me it’s about seeking approval… the most fun and exciting and ego gratifying times in my life have been when I have embraced it and danced with it.

This reminded me of a woman who said (more like complained) that her guy seemed to get an ego-boost whenever a woman he ogled noticed him.

So I’m wondering why this is.  Read the rest of this entry

What To Do When She Loses Interest

loving coupleA lot of men get bummed out when their partners stop being porn stars after a few years.

Heck, after a few years many women aren’t too interested in sex at all, let alone mimicking skin starlets.

So what to do? Read the rest of this entry

Testosterone Damages Verbal Skill. Yet We Have Shakespeare



Penn State psychologists assert that career choice begins in utero, hinging on exposure to sex hormones in the womb.

Since testosterone damages both verbal and social skills, it simply makes sense that women would seek people-oriented jobs, while testosterone-soaked males would veer toward non-people pursuits like the hard sciences, right?  Read the rest of this entry

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