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Gay Porn as Sex Ed for Women?

Why do women like gay porn?

Why do women like gay porn?

I’ve talked about reasons why some women watch gay porn.

Gay male porn stars are usually more attractive than their straight counterparts. And they seem to be having more fun than their female counterparts.

But some women watch gay porn for the sex ed. Read the rest of this entry

Women and Gay, Hot Bods

Why do (some) women watch gay porn?

Why do (some) women watch gay porn?

Why do women — especially lesbians — watch gay porn?

Well, not all women – probably a minority of them. But still.

I recently wrote that gay porn stars seem to have more fun than their straight female counterparts.

But gay porn stars are also HOT.

And how much of the allure comes from spotlighting — shall we say — a certain part of the male physique? Read the rest of this entry

Gay Porn Stars Have More Fun

Why do women watch gay porn?

Why do women watch gay porn?

Why do women watch gay porn in large numbers if they don’t find penises arousing?

That’s what “Claire” wondered. Read the rest of this entry

Feminism Kills Japanese Libido? 

Japanese libido

Japanese libido

Japan is dead last in sexual satisfaction. Some blame feminism.

Really?

The stats:

  • Singles aged 18-34 who don’t want a romantic relationship: Men: 28% Women: 23%
  • Singles aged 16 to 24 who are uninterested in sexual relationships: Women: 45%  Men: 25%

“Grass-eating boys” or “herbivores,” as the guys are called, have no real interest in: Read the rest of this entry

Women Aren’t Visual? It Depends

Marky Mark

Marky Mark

You say that most women don’t find the penis visually arousing. Really? I, personally, find the penis arousing… Do you have any studies to back up your statement?

That’s a question from “Claire.” Read the rest of this entry

Women Gazing At Men

Gazing at men

Lately I’ve been asking why women don’t get so excited by naked men

Elizabeth Hall Magill @ Yo Mama has asked the same question. And she wonders how women can better appreciate the male form, without objectifying them. Here’s an excerpt from one of her posts (with permission).

So—where does that leave a woman’s gaze? Read the rest of this entry

Should Women Give Men The Porn Star Experience?

The porn star experience?

The porn star experience?

A lot of guys have come to expect P.S.E. [the “Porn-Star Experience”] … and plenty of women are more than happy to oblige. A few might enjoy it, but for most it’s harrowing. I think there’s a fear that if they can’t make it happen, their boyfriend will retreat online.

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I Can’t Stop Staring At Other Women

He's all eyes.

He’s all eyes.

Looking at other women has become a big problem for me.

I want to learn how to stop. I mean no harm, but it upsets my wife and hurts her. She says I lose touch with reality and become a different person — and don’t even notice her.

That’s from a 42-year-old man whose been married 16 years. He’s totally satisfied with his wife, he says, and has no interest in anyone else.

But he feels he has no control over his ogling. Read the rest of this entry

Objectifying Women Objectifies Men

Norah Vincent transforms into a man ("Ned") for 18 months.

Norah Vincent transforms into a man (“Ned”) for 18 months.

The four Fs. That’s all you need to know about women. Find ‘em. Feel ‘em. F- ‘em. Forget ‘em.

The only time 12-year-old Phil had a man-to-man chat with his dad, he got that advice. By the time he was a married 39-year-old professional with two daughters, he seemed to have absorbed the lesson: Read the rest of this entry

When Porn Makes Your Decisions

Hooked on porn

Hooked on porn

Pornographic images seem to activate a man’s visual system in a manner that goes beyond just looking at trees or even people. It’s almost like a high-definition signal compared with a standard signal.

That’s from William Struthers, Ph.D., a biopsychologist who wrote Wired for Intimacy.

He says the signal feels a lot like a drug. Some men call porn a “drug” and say it gives them a “rush” and makes them “high.” One man called it, “More mind altering than alcohol or any drug I’ve used.” Read the rest of this entry

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