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The Myth of Hookup Culture

Hookup culture is a myth?

Hookup culture is a myth?

College students are having sex, but not as much as you might think. And most of them are kind of disappointed about the whole thing.

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What’s Wrong With Objectification?

obectification 1I can’t appreciate an attractive woman without objectifying her? Because I don’t see her as a whole person? Because I don’t know her likes and dislikes? Her hopes and dreams? If she owns a dog?

A man asked me that question when I made a distinction between “sex object” and “sexy.”

Sexual objectification isn’t about being sexy or sexual so much as being sexy for someone else while you don’t matter. Read the rest of this entry

Who Has a Higher Sex Drive?

While some women want more sex than their partners, generally the pattern goes the other way.


Researchers at Indiana University say, Read the rest of this entry

Sexy Men Can Seem Gay

Men in Speedos. Sexy? Or gay?

Men in Speedos. Sexy? Or gay?

Imagine men in Speedos plastered all over billboards, drawing your attention to this product or that.

Sexy? Or does it seem kind of gay?

A lot of women think it seems kind of gay. But why is that? Read the rest of this entry

ED: The Best Thing to Happen to Intimacy

intimate sexualityBy Michael J. Russer @ The Good Men Project

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is the best thing to happen to me and my intimacy.

There, I said it. Actually, I say it a lot. On radio, TV, print, online and occasionally gatherings (it’s a great way to quiet a room down if things get rowdy). If some guy had made the same claim to me just two years ago, I would have thought he was either insane or just messing with me. Being fully impotent (i.e. can’t get it up to save my life, even with the pills) is not something most men would be willing to discuss. Or for that matter, even comfortable listening to men talk about. The way some men react, you would think that my “condition” is contagious.  Read the rest of this entry

Men Seeing Ourselves thru Broken Mirrors

Seeing ourselves in broken mirrors.

Seeing ourselves in broken mirrors.

By Alexander Ghanma

A man cuts himself shaving and his wife quips, “That’s the second time this week!”

He goes ballistic and starts yelling at her. Why?

Because he hears: “You’re a complete dumbass, I can’t believe you can’t even shave your face properly.”

Sounds crazy. But it’s all about “Broken Mirrors.”  Read the rest of this entry

How Sex Creates Gender

Sex creates gender

Sex creates gender

Sex — the verb, and everything surrounding it — helps create gender.

Like when some guys discourage other guys from relationships, and pressure random sex.

What’s that got to do with gender? What it means to be a woman or a man? Read the rest of this entry

Feminism Is Good For Men, Too

Gender equality is good for men — and for everyone, says CUNY Professor, Michael Kimmel, expert on men and masculinity, and all-around good guy.

Check out his TED Talk. (I summarize his main points below — and add a few of my own.)


How is gender equality good for men? And for everyone? Read the rest of this entry

Back to School, I Mean Rape Culture

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

As college women returned to school this fall, some were welcomed back to rape culture.

A few college boys who haven’t yet grown into man-sized shoes unravelled banners shouting:

Freshman Daughter Drop-Off

Hope your baby girl is ready for a good time

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Objectification & Male Self-Esteem

man objectifying womanWhy do men objectify women?

Jason Gavis asked men that question on his Facebook page and wrote about their replies for The Good Men Project. Here’s one answer he got:

For me it’s about seeking approval… the most fun and exciting and ego gratifying times in my life have been when I have embraced it and danced with it.

This reminded me of a woman who said (more like complained) that her guy seemed to get an ego-boost whenever a woman he ogled noticed him.

So I’m wondering why this is.  Read the rest of this entry

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