More Suicide in “Values Voters” States

Your values are killing us

Your values are killing us

Values voter.

That’s what you’re called if you vote your principles on gay rights and reproductive rights.

So long as you vote anti-gay and anti-choice, anyway.

Really?

Are those the only values? And are they good ones?  Read the rest of this entry

Women Want Casual Sex? Yes and No

Women want casual sex as much as men, says one study. No they don’t, says another.

Which is it?

Maybe you’ve heard of this project: strangers approach students on college campuses and propose a one night stand or a short-term fling. Women almost always decline, but a lot of men accept.

Standard conclusion: evidence supports evolutionary psychology which claims women are picky, wanting faithful men with good genes, who will provide for their children. Men, on the other hand, will have sex with as many women as possible to better “spread their seed.”

But wait. Another study found that women were as likely to accept casual offers as men. So long as the possible partners were Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. Read the rest of this entry

Lose Weight, Stop Dieting

dieting 1Can a feminist diet?

That’s what Kjerstin Gruys, a UCLA sociology grad student, wondered.

The question haunts me. I’m a feminist, a recovered anorexic and, yes, I’m on a diet.

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Yo, Mama—These Jugs Make Milk!

By Elizabeth Hall Magill @ Yo, Mama

Breasts are fun.

They’re so fun that we’ve named them funbags, squeezeboxes, jugs, hooters, racks, boobs, and tits.

They’re fun to look at, fun to touch and squeeze. They bounce. Men like them, and that is a good thing.

Breasts can be fun to own.

They give a woman pleasure, and that is a good thing. They are an important part of a woman’s body—emblematic of her femininity, her sexuality. When a girl begins to develop breasts, it is her body’s way of saying she will one day be a woman, and a girl listens to that. She listens as the growing pains shoot through her chest, she listens as her mother and grandmother talk about finding a bra. Breasts are such an important part of the transition from girlhood to womanhood that we sometimes call them girls. Read the rest of this entry

Must We Subsidize Walmart?

living wageAs we do our shopping this holiday season, let’s ask this question:

Is a living wage a good thing?

  • Do higher wages cost jobs because businesses fire workers?
  • Or, do higher wages create spending? Leading to more sales and profits and a stronger economy?
  • And will a living wage usher in a $10 hamburger?

First, stop worrying about $10 dollar burgers. Read the rest of this entry

“A Charlie Brown Christmas,” Shrink Wrapped

Snoopy and Charlie Brown

Snoopy and Charlie Brown

“A Charlie Brown Christmas” is celebrating its 50th anniversary.

BroadBlogs is a psychological site and the Peanuts characters reveal facets of our own psychologies. So let’s play shrink:

Charlie Brown 

We might think we are alone in our insecurities, anxieties and depression. But Charlie Brown reveals that we have plenty of company. And that can be comforting as we open empty mailboxes — or worse: the little red-haired girl or boy doesn’t like us back.

Yet loneliness can hold lessons. It may teach that we get what we give. Or, rejection sparks empathy and compassion — even for sparse Christmas trees that “bloom” with a little love and nurturing. Read the rest of this entry

Libido Killer: My Man Ogling Her

oglerYears ago I briefly dated a guy who ogled other women.

Ogle: To look at amorously, flirtatiously, or impertinently; to eye; look or stare at.

I “get” noticing and appreciating an attractive gal. But he dissolved into her. The many hers. While I faded away.

He thought I was weird: “Most girlfriends wouldn’t mind!”

But it was a huge turnoff. Read the rest of this entry

You’ll Kill A Girl Over A Game?

About half of gamers identify as female

About half of gamers identify as female

Women and girls who make and play video games have long been harassed — especially if they are good at it — and most especially if they criticize misogyny within it.

Some have been threatened with rape and murder (see GamerGate). A few have fled their homes.

Really? You’re going to rape and murder someone over a game, or her reaction to it? Read the rest of this entry

A Finger Without A Ring On It

BroadBlogs:

Girlfriends' Guide to DivorceGive the (ring) finger to the camera and say, “Go f- yourself” —

By which we mean, “Go find yourself.”

It’s enough to get you banned.

Read more here:

Originally posted on Stories From the Belly:

An ad for the upcoming Bravo series Girlfriends’ Guide to Divorce was recently banned from subways and city buses in Los Angeles and New York because the content was deemed “inappropriate.” In the poster, star Lisa Edelstein is shown smiling while giving the camera her ring finger (as opposed to her middle finger).

There is a faded tan line on that finger, right where her character’s wedding ring used to be. The tag line accompanying the photo is “Go Find Yourself.”

I like the ad, which caused me to do a double take the first time I saw it. Is that an F-off gesture? I wondered, before realizing that it was the ring finger and not the middle one that Edelstein was raising.

The comedy is based on the popular Girlfriends’ Guide series by Vicki Lovine. Considering that it chronicles the life of a fortysomething woman who finds…

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Introverts Are Good At Relationships

loversBy   (Reposted from The Good Men Project)

First of all, what is an introvert?

Introversion and extroversion are some of the least properly understood terms in psychology. People assume it means whether or not you like to be around people. This is overly simplistic and simply not true.

Here is the best way that I’ve heard introversion explained. Read the rest of this entry

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