We Like People Who Like Us

What attracts?

What attracts?

Just knowing that someone likes us spurs attraction to them.

In one experiment a young woman acted interested in men via eye contact, leaning toward them, and listening attentively. Afterward, the men said they liked her very much.

In fact, “liking” — or not — can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you expect someone won’t like you, you probably won’t act like you like them. And then they won’t like you. This has been borne out in experiments, too.  Read the rest of this entry

Vote to Lower Your Wages

RIP American middle-class

RIP American middle-class

A lot of folks are voting Republican this November in frustration with stalled wage growth.

Yet Democrats voted for — and Republicans voted against:

  • Projects to build and repair roads, bridges and schools — which create good-paying jobs
  • Raising the minimum wage
  • Equal pay for women
  • Union-friendly bills — which pressure nonunion companies to raise wages, too

Read the rest of this entry

A Sexy Halloween for Grade Schoolers?

Check out the change in Halloween costumes over the years. Girls are learning that a big part of their job is to look sexy. And they’re getting that message at a tender age.

Now that’s scary!

Then and now images, via Sociological Images:

Halloween Costumes, Then and Now 1 Read the rest of this entry

Repression: Not What You Think It Is

A culture of sexual repression

A culture of sexual repression

Misconceptions surround sexual repression. And both women and men can be confused.

Some women feel insulted if anyone suggests they might be repressed.

And conversations with guys have made me realize that plenty of them think that repression means, “I really want to have sex with you but I’m going to consciously repress the idea.”

Repression isn’t quite like that.  Read the rest of this entry

Feminists Must Fight For Men’s Rights?

MRAs blame feminism for problems caused by patriarchy

MRAs blame feminism for problems caused by patriarchy

Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs) frequently say women should fight for men’s rights. Like this guy:

Men face sexism too. Who advocates for us?

Or this:

Why aren’t you mentioning the fact that sexism against men gets ignored?

So I ask this:

Why do MRAs insist that women must fight for them when they feel no obligation to fight for women?

Because they never do. Read the rest of this entry

Don’t Bully: The Kind Campaign

Lauren Paul and Molly Thompson

Lauren Paul and Molly Thompson

My junior year in high school, there was one girl who didn’t want to be my friend. She turned my whole group against me. We were also all on the dance team, so on water breaks, I sometimes had fake phone conversations so they thought I had friends.

That’s how Molly Thompson endured high school.

Lauren Paul was tortured every single day of high school by a group of girls who were angry because a boy liked her instead of one of them.

Lauren and Molly met while studying at Pepperdine University. After sharing their stories, they founded The Kind Campaign: Read the rest of this entry

My Polyamory Journey

Polyamory 1By William Albert Baldwin

A few weeks ago, a woman invited me to her apartment, then proceeded to interview me for the role of her boyfriend/
lover/escort.

Since I write about polyamorous relationships and since I list myself as “in an open relationship” on Facebook, she figured I must be “available.”

Besides, I’m a guy; aren’t guys always ready for a willing woman?

In short: No. Read the rest of this entry

Short Hair is for Boys 

LGBTBy Trang Le

I am a girl. That is a simple fact.

But six years ago I cut my hair short and everything changed.

I still dressed the same, acted the same, walked and talked the same. (All admittedly tomboyish). But suddenly everyone saw me as a boy.

All because of a haircut. Read the rest of this entry

My Bumpy Trek: From Tomboy to Sex Object to Me

Bullying pretty girls

Bullying pretty girls

By KEG

As a little girl I wanted to be a boy. As a teen I wanted to be a Cosmo Girl.

I got punished either way.

Sometimes so badly that I stopped eating and started hiding and cutting.

Many scrapes and bruises later, I’m glad to be me. Read the rest of this entry

Guys and Dolls (Literally)

Guys will do anything for the dolls they love, declare Nicely and Benny in the musical, “Guys and Dolls.”

But the video below suggests guys may someday do anything TO the dolls they love. Literal, robotic ones.

I wonder how satisfying it will be. Read the rest of this entry

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