Should “no means no” be upgraded to “yes means yes”?
The California Legislature says state-funded colleges should do just that when determining whether a complaint constitutes rape. By a 52-16 vote in the State Assembly and unanimously in the Senate.
- Rape is rampant on college campuses, where 1/5 of women are assaulted
- Rape charges on campus almost always involve alcohol
- When people are drunk, they often can’t say anything
By Raissa Mbassa
Have you ever thought about slang for our privates?
Some of my guy friends call theirs a “pocket rocket” or a “torpedo.”
Let’s see, a rocket is an incendiary weapon, while a torpedo is a tube-shaped bomb that’s fired underwater. Both cause tremendous destruction to whatever they’re aimed at.
It’s all painted in glorification. Victory. A magic stick of supernatural powers. A man’s best friend. Read the rest of this entry
The belief is so widespread that we needn’t say what the one thing is.
Yet the truism isn’t true.
You may have heard that since there are more women than men on college campuses these days, women are pressured to do sex the way men like it: No strings attached. Read the rest of this entry
Poor moms face no-win situations where conservatives are concerned.
Moms shouldn’t work outside the home, because kids need them every second.
But POOR moms SHOULD work outside the home.
Which leads to another double-blind:
Poor moms must work outside the home, even when they can’t afford childcare. Read the rest of this entry
Imagine living a year without seeing your reflection in a mirror.
That’s what Kjerstin Gruys did when her engagement transformed her from intelligent grad student to “bridezilla.”
You’ve heard of the “bikini body.” Well, Kjerstin fretted over not having an adequate “bride body” in time for her wedding — if ever.
As she viewed dress after dress in the scrutiny of dressing room mirrors, and through the mind’s eye of her imagined wedding day — and after purchasing three different dresses — she knew she had a problem. One which echoed an earlier eating disorder.
So she pledged to give up mirrors for a year, in hopes of regaining her real values. Read the rest of this entry
Here’s one man’s perspective on female and male sexuality. What do you think?
Originally posted on tearmatt:
My God (Allah, Krishna, Thor, Science) I love girls. In all the life forms that exist on the Earth, women are by far the best. Say what you want about them, but us men, we love them! It is through this boundless, senseless love affair that I have with the fairer species, that here, right now, I find myself writing this article, but why? The simple answer is because I’m troubled. Not by a great many things that you would expect from a writer, philosopher or tortured poet, nor from the complications of the female and male dynamic, that confuses feelings and emotions with logic and reason, causing heartache and misunderstanding. My confusion is much more shallow, however in this post I will hopefully and successfully justify why this troubling is in fact, coming from a deep rooted, and thoroughly thoughtful place. My problem is of course, sex.
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Robin Williams’ death jarred me. And disturbed me. Reading about his struggle with depression and anxiety, his words kindled my own dark memories.
Unlike Robin, I’d found a way out.
The PETA ad below deplores cruelty to elephants.
Yet cruelty to women seems okay.
Animal cruelty depresses me and creates a lot of anxiety. So I’m with PETA on that.
But their advertising often troubles me. Read the rest of this entry
When you think of red state sexuality, images of Bible believers saving themselves for marriage — or at least keeping their numbers down — may come to mind.
No wonder plenty of Southerners favor pastors and politicians who preach sex after marriage, abstinence education, no contraception, and shuttering Planned Parenthood.
And blue state sexuality? Full of “friends with benefits” and casual hookups, right? Read the rest of this entry
Women are still proclaiming they’re not feminists over at Tumblr.
Tumblr may be a new thing, but women fighting against their interests is not.
Now why is that?
Before looking at that question, let’s look at the trend:
Feminists whine about stupid stuff, like a right to their wages
Two centuries ago plenty of women shamed and shunned feminists who worked for the right to: vote, own property, have a right to their wages, not be beaten by husbands, get a divorce, have a right to their children after leaving an abusive spouse… and more.
Geez, no wonder feminists were snubbed! Totally unreasonable. Read the rest of this entry