Category Archives: psychology

Why So Angry At Trans-Racial Folk?

Orange is the new Black?

Orange is the new Black?

I’m puzzled by the reasons people give for their anger over Rachel Dolezal’s transracial turn.

Like arguments that contradict each other:

It’s okay to be transgender but not transracial because Read the rest of this entry

Women Aren’t Visual? It Depends

Marky Mark

Marky Mark

You say that most women don’t find the penis visually arousing. Really? I, personally, find the penis arousing… Do you have any studies to back up your statement?

That’s a question from “Claire.” Read the rest of this entry

Trans-racial is Trans-tastic, Rachel Dolezal!

Rachel Dolezal

Rachel Dolezal

By Karl Muonio

We’ve become more accepting of transgender people. But why aren’t transracial people okay?

The media has been storming over Rachel Dolezal of late because she was born in a white body but she feels black.

In fact, she has adopted black children, she is a professor of African-American Studies, and until recently she was a branch president of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP).

Apparently, a black woman who feels trapped in a white body is a major problem that all of society must obsess over and condemn. Read the rest of this entry

Opposites Attract. Or Not.

Do opposites attract?

Do opposites attract?

Opposites attract, they say. And most of us believe it.

In fact, most people say they want a partner who complements them — not one who reflects them.

But do they? Read the rest of this entry

Why Fight Against Your Interests?

False consciousness: any belief or view that prevents a person from being able to understand the true nature of a situation.

False consciousness: a belief that prevents understanding the true nature of a situation.

Why would anyone fight against their own interests?

Some folks have filed suit because it is soooo horrible that they are being offered a tax subsidy that would make health insurance affordable for them. (Supreme Court decision due this month).

?????!!!!!!!!!

But wait, There’s more:

  • I saw a Tea Partier get on a bus to push legislation that would help the billionaire Koch brothers, but hurt his middle-class family. He forlornly said that it had to be done.

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Making Peace With My Small Boobs

Mila Kunis, Sexiest Woman Alive

Mila Kunis, Sexiest Woman Alive

Soon enough, the world would teach me to see the (bra) cup as half empty rather than half full.

That’s from Jennifer Miller, 34A.

Our big-boob obsessed culture creates plenty of body-conscious women who struggle with self-esteem. Here are some stories of women who came to appreciate themselves and their perky breasts. Read the rest of this entry

Sexual Satisfaction Tied to Gender Equality

Gender equality = sexual equality

Gender equality = sexual equality

When I ask my students how many of them have heard of girls being slut-shamed in high school, they all have.

Meanwhile, as I’ve mentioned before, around half of American women have experienced sexual dysfunction: low desire, no desire, painful sex and difficulty climaxing.

Women enjoy sexuality much more in places where women and men have greater equality. Read the rest of this entry

Caitlyn Jenner: More Than Sexy?

Caitlyn Jenner

Caitlyn Jenner

We rejoice at Caitlyn Jenner’s courage and happiness as she transitions, bodily, to womanhood.

But as she “came out” so did some disturbing truths about how we value women, says Rhonda Garelick in a New York Times piece. In a Vanity Fair spread,

Ms. Jenner poses in skintight dresses, a cinched black lace corset and two different gold evening gowns … She lounges on a sofa, peers into mirrors or reclines with her head thrown back, eyes closed… (appearing) languid and glamorous, her body still and on display rather than performing any activity…

This seems less the liberation of a true self than a reminder of the straitjacket requirements of acceptable, desirable womanhood.

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Why Endure Excruciating Hookups? 

Bad sex

Bad sex

Some women enjoy hooking up when it’s “friends with benefits.” Or if not friends, at least sex without malevolence.

Other times ya gotta wonder why they do it.

Women having bad sex

Like women who have sex with 13 men (at different times) but without pleasure. Because it’s about his pleasure and not hers. Or women who feel reduced to sex toys. Or women who “just want to get it over with.”  Or women who say, Read the rest of this entry

What Women Want. What Men Think They Do

feet-2When I first started kissing boys I remember noticing things, certain behaviors, where I thought, ‘There’s no way you learned that anywhere but on YouPorn.com. There’s no way any teenage girl taught you and reinforced that behavior.’

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