Category Archives: psychology

“A Charlie Brown Christmas,” Shrink Wrapped

Snoopy and Charlie Brown

Snoopy and Charlie Brown

“A Charlie Brown Christmas” is celebrating its 50th anniversary.

BroadBlogs is a psychological site and the Peanuts characters reveal facets of our own psychologies. So let’s play shrink:

Charlie Brown 

We might think we are alone in our insecurities, anxieties and depression. But Charlie Brown reveals that we have plenty of company. And that can be comforting as we open empty mailboxes — or worse: the little red-haired girl or boy doesn’t like us back.

Yet loneliness can hold lessons. It may teach that we get what we give. Or, rejection sparks empathy and compassion — even for sparse Christmas trees that “bloom” with a little love and nurturing. Read the rest of this entry

Libido Killer: My Man Ogling Her

oglerYears ago I briefly dated a guy who ogled other women.

Ogle: To look at amorously, flirtatiously, or impertinently; to eye; look or stare at.

I “get” noticing and appreciating an attractive gal. But he dissolved into her. The many hers. While I faded away.

He thought I was weird: “Most girlfriends wouldn’t mind!”

But it was a huge turnoff. Read the rest of this entry

You’ll Kill A Girl Over A Game?

About half of gamers identify as female

About half of gamers identify as female

Women and girls who make and play video games have long been harassed — especially if they are good at it — and most especially if they criticize misogyny within it.

Some have been threatened with rape and murder (see GamerGate). A few have fled their homes.

Really? You’re going to rape and murder someone over a game, or her reaction to it? Read the rest of this entry

Introverts Are Good At Relationships

loversBy   (Reposted from The Good Men Project)

First of all, what is an introvert?

Introversion and extroversion are some of the least properly understood terms in psychology. People assume it means whether or not you like to be around people. This is overly simplistic and simply not true.

Here is the best way that I’ve heard introversion explained. Read the rest of this entry

Frat-Boy Rapists Are Okay?

University of Virginia protesters

University of Virginia protesters

Note: Rolling Stone issued a statement saying there are some discrepancies in Jackie’s story. (See note below).

Why do we blame victims of brutal violence and shield — or even reward — their attackers?

Maybe you’ve heard about 18-year-old Jackie who met “Drew” when they worked as lifeguards at a University of Virginia swimming pool. Drew invited Jackie to dinner and a “date function” at his upper tier fraternity, Phi Kappa Psi.

Jackie was excited, and spent hours getting ready for the date. At the frat party she sipped some spiked punch and discreetly poured the rest onto the sticky floor. And then Drew suggested they go upstairs, “Where it’s quieter.”  Read the rest of this entry

Ferguson: If Whites Became Black

Black lives don't matter?

Black lives don’t matter?

A lot of whites “don’t get” the uproar in Ferguson.

Why would anyone get upset over killing a thug who robbed and assaulted a convenience store clerk? A guy who struggled to get a cop’s gun? And who later charged at the officer?

Michael Brown is not an ideal martyr.

But the upset isn’t about Michael Brown so much as it’s about a world that says:

Black lives don’t matter!

Plenty of whites think we have overcome racism. They think blacks have the same experience with the police — and the world — as whites do.

Try putting yourself in their shoes. Read the rest of this entry

Why Dating Resists Gender Equality

How to ask a girl out

How to ask a girl out

Gender equality has grown by leaps and bounds. We now have women CEOs, heads of state, religious leaders, media pros, doctors, lawyers and accountants…

But dating — at least the early stages — has remained resistant.

In the early stages of relationship, most men take the lead and most women passively wait. Read the rest of this entry

Variety Is The Spice Of Life

Variety is the spice of life

Variety is the spice of life

“Find fits for every body type,” the ad says.

Hmmm, I see tall and skinny in the first frame. Tall and skinny in the second frame. Tall and skinny in the third frame. And tall and skinny in the last frame. Read the rest of this entry

Chimp Study: Assault Aids Procreation?

Mean chimps

Mean chimps

Violence against women may aid procreation?

Some evolutionary psychologists actually think so.

After all, mean male chimps sire more offspring than their friendlier brothers, an Arizona State study findsRead the rest of this entry

Sometimes Long Hair Is For Boys

Anne Hathaway

Anne Hathaway

Andre Agassi

Andre Agassi

Women may wear their hair short because it’s chic or easy to care for. And some guys favor long, sexy locks, a la Andrea Agassi — before he went bald.

But some women cut it short to express a more masculine sense of themselves. Just as some men — cross-dressers — don girlish wigs to bring out their feminine side.

So hair holds symbolic meaning: Long is feminine; it’s for girls. Short is masculine; it’s for boys.

Except when it’s notRead the rest of this entry

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