Category Archives: objectification

What’s Wrong With Objectification?

obectification 1I can’t appreciate an attractive woman without objectifying her? Because I don’t see her as a whole person? Because I don’t know her likes and dislikes? Her hopes and dreams? If she owns a dog?

A man asked me that question when I made a distinction between “sex object” and “sexy.”

Sexual objectification isn’t about being sexy or sexual so much as being sexy for someone else while you don’t matter. Read the rest of this entry

Am I “Doing It” Right?

Hannah and Adam from HBO's Girls

Hannah and Adam from HBO’s Girls

HBO’s “Girls” is an exploration of young women’s sexuality today, so I was struck by a scene that the New York Times’ Frank Bruni described as being all about what “he” wants “her” to do:

(“Hannah’s”) back is to her boyfriend, who seems to regard her as an inconveniently loquacious halfway point between partner and prop, and her concern is whether she’s correctly following instructions.

‘So I can just stay like this for a little while?’ she asks. ‘Do you need me to move more?’

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Sexy Men Can Seem Gay

Men in Speedos. Sexy? Or gay?

Men in Speedos. Sexy? Or gay?

Imagine men in Speedos plastered all over billboards, drawing your attention to this product or that.

Sexy? Or does it seem kind of gay?

A lot of women think it seems kind of gay. But why is that? Read the rest of this entry

Sex Objects Who Don’t Enjoy Sex

Self-objectification, defined.

Laci Green defines self-objectification.

Sexual objectification can have its perks in the bedroom, with breast fetishes and butt fetishes heightening men’s arousal.

But surprisingly, it can have the opposite effect, harming both men’s and women’s enjoyment. And in many ways. Here’s one: self-objectification. Read the rest of this entry

How Sex Creates Gender

Sex creates gender

Sex creates gender

Sex — the verb, and everything surrounding it — helps create gender.

Like when some guys discourage other guys from relationships, and pressure random sex.

What’s that got to do with gender? What it means to be a woman or a man? Read the rest of this entry

Women Making Love to Themselves

Are you turned on?

Are you turned on?

Being desired is the orgasm.

That’s true for women, anyway. So says Marta Meana, who studies sexuality at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Women are most turned on by feeling irresistible to their lovers, she adds. Read the rest of this entry

The Most Important Thing For a Woman: Be Hot

Las Vegas billboard

Las Vegas billboard

Many young women think that the most important thing is to be hot. And in a very narrow way.

It’s no wonder. They’re bombarded by narrowly sexy images.

Go to Google Images and type “sexy images” or “sexy fantasies.” About 99% of the pics will be of women.

What? Men aren’t sexy?

And why do they all look alike. Isn’t variety the spice of life?

Go to Las Vegas and take a look at the billboards. About 99% will be sexy ladies. Read the rest of this entry

Objectification & Male Self-Esteem

man objectifying womanWhy do men objectify women?

Jason Gavis asked men that question on his Facebook page and wrote about their replies for The Good Men Project. Here’s one answer he got:

For me it’s about seeking approval… the most fun and exciting and ego gratifying times in my life have been when I have embraced it and danced with it.

This reminded me of a woman who said (more like complained) that her guy seemed to get an ego-boost whenever a woman he ogled noticed him.

So I’m wondering why this is.  Read the rest of this entry

Gay Porn Stars Have More Fun

Why do women watch gay porn?

Why do women watch gay porn?

Why do women watch gay porn in large numbers if they don’t find penises arousing?

That’s what “Claire” wondered. Read the rest of this entry

Women Aren’t Visual? It Depends

Marky Mark

Marky Mark

You say that most women don’t find the penis visually arousing. Really? I, personally, find the penis arousing… Do you have any studies to back up your statement?

That’s a question from “Claire.” Read the rest of this entry

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