Men, Myths & Female Pleasure

Originally posted on Scott Williams:

Young Couple in Relationship Conflict

You understand how to fix your car. You can recite hockey stats like a scout. You understand renovations. You are good at your job. So why can’t you figure out a clitoris? The G-Spot? Do you really know if she’s faking it?

It is staggering the number of females in a longterm heterosexual marriage or relationship who tell me they rarely orgasm unless they do it themselves. The percentage is so high that I am nervous about how believable it would sound if I ventured a guess. The words, vast majority, have a truthful ring to them. Many women admit that they used to have more pleasure. Often women will tell me that their partner tries to pleasure them. More often than not, however, it’s tempting to just “lie back and dream of England”. So what is the big deal? Why is this so hard?

It really isn’t. It…

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I have a Ph.D. from UCLA in sociology (emphasis: gender, social psych). I currently teach sociology and women's studies at Foothill College in Los Altos Hills, CA. I have also lectured at San Jose State. And I have blogged for Feminispire, Ms. Magazine, The Good Men Project and Daily Kos. Also been picked up by The Alternet.

Posted on August 4, 2014, in men, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, women and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. Interesting and enlightening. Curious about the reason for the drop in pleasure after the initial high. is it familiarity?

    • You have to look at all of the data as a whole, Because it can look contradictory.

      43% of US women have experienced sexual dysfunction: low interest, no interest, pain, difficulty with orgasm, Inability to orgasm

      One third of women feel sad and depressed after sex

      Women are on average both more bored with sex and more satisfied with the amount of sex they get. Sounds strange? On the other side of that number are men to feel unsatisfied because they aren’t getting enough sex. Women are more likely to feel like they get plenty of sex, even if it is zero-Low.

      Other research shows men much more likely to have an orgasm. For instance, in their 20s, about 99% of men consistently orgasm. But only around half of women. Men are also more likely to say they enjoyed sex last time they had it, at the percentages pretty much correlate with whether or not a person had an orgasm.

      All of that is reflecting the repression of women’s sexuality.

      At the same time, on average women could be more sexually adventurous than men. There are two possibilities there:

      1) even though on average women enjoy sex less, among those men & women who are adventurous, women are more likely to be.

      And then either:

      a) those women are super-hot for sex.

      or b) Women adventurousness may even be consistent with their repression: since it’s harder for women to get pleasure, They may feel more motivated to try a lot of new things to get there.

      But thanks, maybe I will blog on this sometime.

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