Early Sex = Less Sex, Short Relationships
Having sex early on is associated with short-term relationships. And less sex while in them.
That’s what sociologists, Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker, learned after researching young adults for their book, Premarital Sex in America.
When couples in their 20’s went to bed the first day or the first week of knowing someone, only 14% were still in a relationship a year later. If they waited a month or two, 26% remained together. After six months one-third were still a couple.
So while couplehood isn’t likely after having sex the same night you meet, it’s not impossible.
But sexual interest also decreases quickly among those who have intercourse early on. Maybe because most people think sex is better when they have a strong emotional component. And the sooner you start having sex, the less people seem to communicate about it. So it’s probably not as great as it could be.
No surprise then that these shorter relationships also involve less sex. 63% of couples who had been together at least four months “did it” at least twice a week. After seven months the number rose to 72%. After a year 80% got it on at least twice-weekly. And couples who had been together over a year averaged five times a week.
Whether the low rate of long-term coupling is a problem depends on whether you want a tryst or something more. And there’s a good possibility that people who want sex, and little else, are just more likely to hop in the sack sooner.
Interestingly, if you’re a youngish 20-something and you wait six months to consummate, your chances of keeping the relationship still aren’t too high. But maybe it’s not surprising that young people are more interested in having experiences than finding a mate.