Did You Score Last Week?
If you are a 20-something American, the longer your relationship the more times you probably “did it.”
Sociologists, Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker studied young US adults for their book, Premarital Sex in America. Among other things, they wondered how often couples had sex.
Check out these numbers: 63% of couples who had been together at least four months got it on at least twice a week. That number bumped up to 72% if they’d been together seven months. After a year, 80% got laid at least once a week.
And, couples having sex at least five times per week were the same ones who’d been together for over a year.
Meanwhile, young marrieds made love about 100 times over the course of a year. But 20-something single women came in at 40 times while their male counterparts did the deed about 30 times (after subtracting a few “outliers” who reported having tons of sex).
Romantic relationships are also more sexually active than casual friends with benefits, and such.
Mind you, twenty-somethings don’t typically have terribly long romantic relationships. For them, longish is about 1-3 years. But why are these relationships more sex-filled?
Maybe because the guys were pretty much always interested, so the amount of action depended on the girl. And women typically need more emotional connection to enjoy sex. That’s likely because of culture, not biology, since you don’t find that phenomenon everywhere.
When people start having sex right away there is seldom emotional connection. And even less communication. So women may be less likely to say what they want — or what they don’t want. That’s another reason they might enjoy it less, and want it less.
We seem to have the idea that after a couple has been together for a while sexual activity dies down. That’s not the case with young adults.
It often isn’t the case at other ages, either.
A study of British women found that women over age 35 had sex more often than they did in their twenties. And they thought it was better, too. That’s probably why they were having more.
In fact, a slew of studies say that sex gets better over time. And quantity often follows quality.
Most of us want passion and enduring attachments. Looks like maybe we can have it all.