Girls Get Friend-Zoned, Too
Well, I’ve been interested in men who saw me as “just a friend,” too. One particularly can’t-take-my-eyes-off-you gorgeous man comes to mind. It’s not that I asked him out and got rejected. He just never asked me out. So we stayed friends when I wanted more. Leaving me in the friend zone.
So even women who don’t ask men out get friend-zoned. Unless every man they are interested in asks them out–which is hard to imagine.
Yeah, being “friended” in a not-so-wanted way happens to women, too.
True, the friend-zone is more in-your-face for guys since they’re expected to make the first move. So it may be more hurtful for them in that way. But we all end up in the same place: outside the arms we want to be in.
Of course, it’s possible that some of the men that women are interested in simply don’t make that first move because they are shy or don’t realize we find them attractive. So that brings up another topic. Girls often don’t feel like they can ask guys out.
The thought of asking a guy out may never come to mind as a real possibility. Or, a woman may worry that a man will think she’s aggressive, easy, a slut, desperate, he’ll miss out on the chase, he’ll resent her taking the lead, or it’ll just be a turnoff for some other random reason she hasn’t thought of yet.
What’s the point of asking a guy out if will just backfire, she wonders?
So she doesn’t ask, he doesn’t ask, and a lot of us end up feeling like all we can get is friendship, when we would all like something more.
So, a few points here: Men, you are not alone in the friend-zone. And if you would like women to approach you, start letting them know. Women, let’s take empowerment to the next level: personal relationships, which seem to have dragged behind in the move toward equality and partnership.
Posted on January 27, 2014, in feminism, men, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, sexism, women and tagged feminism, friend zone, men, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, sexism, women. Bookmark the permalink. 52 Comments.