When Playboy Pushes Consent It’s Cool
Posted by BroadBlogs
You’ve probably heard about Playboy’s new and revised Top 10 Party Commandments for the ultimate guide to a consensual good time.
Because without consent, “party times are under serious threat” by rape:
A good college party is all about everyone having a good time. Consent is all about everyone having a good time. Rape is only a good time if you’re a rapist. And f— those people.
You’ve probably also heard that these revised commandments are a hoax unleashed by college feminists.
Interestingly, when people thought Playboy was promoting consent, the response was overwhelmingly positive and praised by students, college papers, national news outlets, and shared on Facebook and Twitter. Fake sites promoting the “Commandments” received 3,000+ hits an hour.
Even the hacked site, BroBible, later said they
agree with the overall messaging… The world is safe for bros to be feminists too.
I found that especially interesting.
You may have heard the phrase, “bros before hoes,” which claims guys must unite — apparently, against women.
That attitude can lead fraternity “bros” to gang rape a woman in an attempt to “prove” their superiority over her, while demonstrating to each other their “masculine” attributes of dominance, power, virility — and not being gay. Or, bros might individually get women drunk and have intercourse with them to gain bragging rights about nailing a girl.
But when Playboy celebrates consent, bros are into it? That’s hopeful.
Probably most guys, including bros, don’t want to harm women. And most don’t. Those who do often hate feeling pressured to mete out the humiliations (which are usually on a much lower scale than sexual assault), says Prof. Michael Kimmel, who studies men and masculinity.
Meanwhile, Playboy has been socially conscious on many issues, as with joining the fight against race discrimination and sex trafficking. Now it’s time for Playboy to step up and REALLY promote consent. Because when they’re for it, so many others follow.
Do your part by tweeting @Playboy to help celebrate pleasurable, consensual sex.
About BroadBlogsI have a Ph.D. from UCLA in sociology (emphasis: gender, social psych). I currently teach sociology and women's studies at Foothill College in Los Altos Hills, CA. I have also lectured at San Jose State. And I have blogged for Feminispire, Ms. Magazine, The Good Men Project and Daily Kos. Also been picked up by The Alternet.
Posted on September 25, 2013, in feminism, men, psychology, rape and sexual assault, sex, sexism, violence against women, women and tagged consent, feminism, men, Playboy Top 10 Party Commandments, psychology, sex, sexism, violence against women. Bookmark the permalink. 14 Comments.