I find it ironic that men are angry and retaliatory over the “power that women have over them” when women are simply living their normal, everyday existences since it entirely highlights the heteronormativity in society—I encounter plenty of handsome and attractive men day in and day out and I manage to maintain composure and poise regardless. I think that it is certainly true that when we come across someone who is attractive or otherwise “our type” so to speak there is certainly a degree of power differential to deal with and the key is to not give in to this while going about our business. For men to be angry and feel attacked by this I think exposes a key aspect of toxic masculinity that men are inherently uncontrollable and therefore it is the woman’s fault for making them feel this way.
The notion of entitlement to a woman’s body is a confusing one that compounds onto the issue of the power differential of attraction. It is such a fundamentally flawed notion that men “deserve” and “are entitled” to women that it would almost be comedic to recognize how the realization that this is not true for certain men causes them immense discomfort if it weren’t so detrimental to the lives of the women surrounding these men. If that isn’t the ultimate commodification of women into practically an object of welfare then I don’t know what is, and it’s just inconceivable that there are people and parts of the world where this is not only accepted but the norm.

It is not surprising that some men react to beautiful women with aggression– much of the idea of masculinity has created an inferiority complex around emotions. Masculinity preaches aggression, dominance, physical power and emotional reticence – not love, compassion or peacefulness. These values are intimately connected to, and manifest in, control and systems of domination – governmental, financial, military and domestic – by which a small number of men secure the natural and economic resources of the planet for themselves, and protect their privilege by any and all means. Any threat to such ideas about oneself serves as an immediate reaction to the masculine– aggression and revenge against what seems to be (in their view) attack on their honor– on their masculinity. In the same way, as mentioned in the post, women have been taught to be beautiful– that beauty is the correct physical standard for them. It is sad to think some men think this way and violence against women is often the result of such instances. The primary concern to address is the pervasive and destructive qualities that manifest themselves in the ideology of masculinity. Such concepts are central to society and in particular, capitalism. However, given the widespread and continuous nature of such identities, there is room to grow from a masculine mindset to a more inclusive and empathic way of thinking and emotional recognition. It is not easy, and for some, they are entirely unaware that they possess such attitudes. But they are also unaware that attitudes negatively impact not only women but themselves and other men around them. Societal masculinity is inherently contradictive of its characteristics; no one fits perfectly into the masculine so there will be areas where men find themselves lacking and vulnerable. Such feelings alone are incompatible with the construct of masculinity- reinforcing the inferiority complex and need for retribution. Men who have grown up or have been influenced by such concepts can overcome this by educating themselves on what cultural and social factors have affected their ideas about their image and others.

I can feel the pain of males who are rejected by girls. But don’t get me wrong, I feel this pain not because I have been rejected before but by witnessing the suffering of my roommate who had broken up with his girlfriend a few weeks ago. However, I would have to say that it is pretty childish and selfish to call them a certain thing or to explicitly express a discontent by saying mean things to women. Women, too, have the freedom to choose the males they want to choose and to do what they want with their bodies. Men should not, in any way, feel entitled to what is not theirs in the first place unless, of course, you are a father of a female toddler. The thing that these guys who act out aggressively after being rejected to do are to train how to control their emotions. There are many ways to do this. One of the very useful ways seems to be meditation.

It is almost insane to think that men would feel such an urge to go out of their ways and react in such an inhumane manner and commit a crime over how a women is dressed. Todays fashion industry focuses on making a women look good and confident in the clothes they are wearing. With that being sad, something that caught my attention was the fact that some men could feel such an urge to force a women into undesirable sex because of what she is wearing. This style of thinking is perverse and irrational especially now with media portraying this unrealistic way of h a women should look like. Women are now put in such stressful state because of all the celebrities influencing the media and making women feel the need to change themselves in order to be more confident. Moreover, the societies expectation of beauty has completely altered and it is understandable for a women to want to dress in a curtain way to feel confident. i find it absurd for anyone to use that as an excuse to rape someone.

The fact that this article emphasizes that society wants women to be physically beautiful and appealing is frustrating and disappointing. Although it also suggests that one way to resolve the problem is for everyone to consider men and women to be equal in society, the problem should not even be considered a problem because, so what if men don’t like pretty women? Why should it matter to them what women look and dress like? Shouldn’t women alter their appearance however they please without worrying about societal standards and about how men will think of them? After going through a series of frustrated emotions after reading this article, I remembered that studying women’s rights involves reflecting on society as a whole, men included. Without evaluating reactions of men, we can’t fully understand gender studies. Some men tend to dislike attractive women for various reasons, like a threat to their power. This is something that is currently happening in our society and cannot be changed unless we analyze the current structure of society and educate others on how to treat women better.

Let’s just acknowledge that heterosexual men are essentially defenseless against feeling attracted to the bodily charms of an attractive woman. When a woman choses to dress herself “modestly” (= not too revealing), most men will not feel too nervous or intimidated by her. But since maybe 2 decades it has become more common for women to dress in clothes that are very revealing. It’s not unusual to see young women who wear jeans that essentially reveal all of their curves.

In fact: some of these jeans are tailored in a way that makes their curves look even more attractive than what they would look like if they were just in their “birthday suite” (= naked). So, a woman in very tight jeans can have a stimulating effect of a higher order than just seeing a naked woman somewhere on the beach or in the sauna (not uncommon in Europe).

As men who are susceptible to such stimuli, we can only choose to ignore the stimuli and avoid it, or to be affected by it. Being affected by it could mean that we would like to explore the bodily charms of the woman, who already partially reveals them to us, even more. But since women are humans and not some sex objects, we can of course not just touch and explore a woman according to our liking, but we first must must built an interpersonal relationship.

This is where the actualy problem lies: women who are more attractive tend to be more exclusive and picky in whom they date. Every man is attracted to physically attractive women, but not every man will have the opportunity to personally meet and date one. So attractive women who present their bodily charms basically give off the message: look, I have what all you men want, but if you cannot meet my high expectations, you will not be the one who will have access to it.

It leaves those men, who only get the stimulus, but not the opportunity to react satisfyingly to the stimulus (by successfully approaching the woman who sends out the stimulus), behind with frustration and anger. This frustration and anger is not solely direct towards the women who use their stimuli, but also towards the chosen few of men, who are fortunate to be accepted by these women. So, it’s more related to a social divide, to “lookism” and to status, than to male feelings of entitlement towards women.

What do you think to this hypothesis. Or is it to male-centered and sexist? Would like to hear your responses.

This topic is very interesting given that I am a girl and some times like to dress pretty or sexy. I guess in my opinion I like to sometimes dress sexy, because honestly it does help your self esteem to get noticed that you look good on that day, rather it was a comment or the way someone just looked at you. Two, I feel like with women there is a lot of competition out there, for instance, am I as pretty as her or I wish I looked like that where women feel the need to look sexy or nice just to help not comparing or looking down on yourself when another pretty women walks by. I can see how some women can be teases and some just wanting to look good for themselves, but I don’t think it is any reason for men to get angry over or even need to be aggressive about it. But I do feel no women should be rude by any means from noticing your beauty unless you are being harassed. Some just dress to impress and I feel like this can go both ways for men and women. Guys like to show off in other ways to show he is cool or get the girls attention.

Very interesting article!
Michael Kimmels research that you included is quiet disturbing, but also really answered some of my questions on why men rape women. Ive always had this understanding that they did it out of spite but never really why, it is mind blowing that some men feel aggression towards attractive women because they cannot have them, as if women should be their property. You also make a good point by questioning whether men feel pleasure and resentment all at once, this would explain why some men blame women for dressing to “slutty”, therefore they were “asking for it.” Its interesting to think that men actually think that women present themselves as “sexy” to get a mans attention, which in some situations is true, but it is more then yetI agree that we should step out of societies expectations and definition of beauty and expand it as it should be and how beauty truly is.

Men should not feel or think they are entitled to a woman’s body just because they can easily over power them. As woman, we see so much mainstream media of what is expected of us and how we should look and behave ourselves, and when we do start dressing and looking a certain way we can still receive negative commentary from it. This can also go the other way around, there are many attractive men that act in similar way this article describes, the difference is many women would not feel like they have entitlement to a man’s body and they would turn it on themselves thinking they are not attractive enough and even become sad about it. For men, it dwells down to their ego, if they feel like it is being crushed they must find a way to recuperate themselves. Overall, both men and woman should come to the understanding that as individual we own ourselves and if someone is not interested in you it is not because something is wrong with you, it’s because that person has their own interest and finds other things appealing and that’s not to say you won’t feel the same of others as well.

When it comes to the safety of our children and teenagers, especially young girls, we need to use our power to protect them from sex crimes by educating them about the dangers and risks provocative behavior and sexy clothes can create. Sex is everywhere in the media thus it is evident that these images shape the fashion and trends, especially among teenagers, accordingly. It would be irresponsible for a parent to not guide their young when it comes to things like appropriate outfits to wear out.
However, adult women having to have to shape the way they choose to express themselves for the sake of protecting themselves from sex crimes or from the finger of blame, is another thing. I believe that a women can be smart, ambitious, nurturing and sexy at the same time while also supportive of other women. Within legal limits, women should be able to wear, behave and express themselves however they please without having to feel responsible in any shape or form of being sexually harassing men and vice versa.

This article makes me only see the men perspective, and it lacks on showing the girl’s perspective! I’ve known some guys that are like this too! for example, hot looking soccer players, they don’t always go for any girl, they go for the most prettiest girl in the class, and the reason for that is because of the logic”creating pretty babies” but in the end, I say before guys even make a move they should get to know the girl better, and see if they see themselves with them in the future. Meaning do they enjoy keeping each other company or not. As for feeling angry, because they see girl’s attractive side, why not have men look attractive as well! there’s no reason for men to feel bad, and angry about a girl looking beautiful, it is a guy’s fault just as much its the girl’s fault for pushing their looks over the top, because girl’s and guys need to learn to control themselves, in other words have a limit! and respect one another. A guy is awfully wrong for trying to put a limit into girl’s beauty because then that will be controlling the girl, and that shouldn’t be the case. Guys should not be desperate for trying to find love, because the world have a million people, and obviously there’s not only one girl, there are a lot.

Degrading you by BEING the sex object?

Not all women who are abused try to be beautiful or sexy – some of them are just being themselves. You should make changes to the post to reflect that.

The fact that men feel like they are entitled to women’s bodies is ridiculous because they one people to have any say or entitlement to a women’s body is that women herself. If men feel hatred towards pretty women than they are just bitter because those women do not want anything to do with them and knowing that they do not have any power towards those women upsets them. It is very odd that a women who is dressed nice and is pretty causes a reaction so negative because we have always heard that men love seeing a pretty women dressed in nice or sexy clothing. In our society, having a pretty face is seen as a positive because people treat them in a more kind matter and are often given special treatment and this shows that they are power. Having this power would result in men feeling angry that the opposite sex-who is seen as less-has more power and can get away with more. But since the beginning of time, men are got away with almost everything and most of it being awful things.

It had never even crossed my mind that men felt enraged by pretty women because they feel rejected. But it actually makes sense, especially with slut-shaming becoming so common. I think that we are taught from a very young age that aggression is a key part in showing interest in a potential romantic partner. In school, I remember being taunted by boys in my class, and when telling my parents that it made me uncomfortable, they responded with ‘don’t worry, that must mean he likes you! boys will be boys!’ Boys grow up learning that it’s acceptable to be aggressive with girls, and girls learn that this actually means they’re interested romantically. I think that growing up with that mentality, it can manifest into something more serious – where men actually slut-shame, and rape women because they feel they need to have power. They feel that women’s beauty is a slap in the face and teasing to all men, since men feel that they’ll never have a chance with a sexy woman. Since women have so much of an impact over male sexuality, men feel that they are entitled to retaliate by asserting their own control. In reality, it is up to the individual to control their thoughts and actions, and no one is responsible for how they feel other than themselves. Men also need to learn that sexuality is not synonymous with power. It is also important to understand that if a woman chooses to dress provocatively, it isn’t about pleasing men. I think that men get a lot of privilege in society and can have a hard time understanding when something doesn’t actually revolve around them for once.

It is crazy to me that a guy gets angry when seeing a pretty girl. Usually, it is a girl that gets so mad at a pretty girl for just existing and being pretty. The way you put it as guys see women’s body as theirs is even more crazy for me. Just because a beautiful happens to be in the building does not mean you can call dibs. That’s not how life works. As a woman, I love to dress up and do my makeup. It’s a time where I can pamper myself and to most importantly feel pretty. I get all dolled up for me and half the time it’s also for other girls because that’s how you can a. make a friend or b. get really sincere compliments. Especially if my life is going terribly wrong and one day I decided to really focus on my makeup or hair or outfit and a girl says something nice, best believe that makes my whole day turnaround. It’s the fact that they don’t expect anything back (besides thank you or a compliment to them) and they might actually mean it (you never know with some girls aka a Regina George). The ideas you added at the end really sum up what guys should really be thinking. Fellas, don’t get mad because a pretty girl didn’t look at you or your ego feels a little broken. Women are human beings and we/they are entitled to their body, minds, and thoughts. If you really want to get at them try actually being a decent human being and get to actually know them, not just their bodies. Who knows, if your lucky enough you might actually get both (with her consent of course).

It honestly terrifies me how entitled men feel to a woman’s body. The idea of men hating pretty women because they can’t have them is similar to a toddler having a temper tantrum because they can’t have ice cream for dinner. Men don’t realize the effect of turning a woman into a sex object until it happens to them. I grew up with all brothers, both of which were bar tenders in San Francisco through college. They were astonished with how men came on to them, they mentioned how the men coming on to them were aggressive, and wouldn’t budge. Even after saying they were straight, would not stop. And I just laughed and explained that’s what it’s like being a woman. Entitlement is a dangerous thing and the idea of provoking rape is completely made from society.

Although I agree with you that there is obviously a double standard when it comes to women’s clothing, I do think you left out a crucial point. While you may claim that women only dress sexy because society tells them to, I think there is another aspect. A woman who dresses attractively will get more attention from men, be it positive or, as we have recently learned, negative, the attention is there. In turn, a woman who gets more attention from men, feels more powerful, desirable, and sexy. Since society puts so much value in these aspects, dressing attractively becomes a desirable task. I know that as a single female, when I dress sexier at the bars and I notice guys noticing me, I feel attractive, which I like. Simple logic then states that I will desire to look attractive, because I desire to be seen as beautiful. I may not even like what I’m wearing, it could be completely against current fashion trends, but if I can have this outfit justified with approval, I will want to wear it more. (This could be justified from women complimenting you as well). Although I am phrasing this from my own personal perspective, I think it does extend to other women as well. In conclusion, we have entered a particularly repetitive cycle.

“Some men learn that they should have power over women so that when it’s the other way around, they may feel angry and resentful. See women as your equals — neither less-than nor better-than — and respect them.” I am a female but I maybe should admit that I really do have these ideas in my mind. Somehow I think this seems like some people think that a girlfriend should not be taller (physically of course) than their boyfriend. It may make males feel they are small, or even without power. However, my boyfriend is not taller than me. And he is proud of me because I am taller than him. He told me that he can show his friend how he got a taller girlfriend. In fact, this really surprised me so much. I am a female who is taller than other girls all the time. It doesn’t make me happy until I met my boyfriend now. This maybe could change some people’s mind.

I struggle with this. Of course, I never want to hurt anyone, let alone a woman. Yet, a pretty woman, attractive woman, isn’t it. It’s sexually alluring women, who go out of their way to look sexy. You can’t blame ‘society’ for rewarding attractive women. ‘Society’ is just the actions of many individuals, you can’t wash your hands of sexualising yourselves by ‘the magazines make me do it’.

Women know we have uncontrollable urges to be with beautiful, sexy women. Fgs stop with the ‘entitled to sex’. We don’t feel entitled. Wed prefer not to be provoked, on a daily basis, purely to give an ego boost to a woman….and that’s what it’s about.

I used to love women of all varieties, sexy and all. Over several years, I attempted to build relationships with attractive women. I’m not particularly attractive, but I have good job and generally good guy in life, yet every single conventionally attractive woman I encountered felt nothing of building interest, before deciding after they had got me hooked in with a few dates to then push me off, like a light switch. Average guys get used, over and over, for their time, effort, money etc by women who are putting every effort into attracting them whilst knowing, deep down, it’s all a game. A game to make you say ‘I like you’, at which point, they believe they’ve won, and continue seeking what they really want, which isn’t, or never was, an average looking or unconventional guy.

As a guy, I’ve bedded women I have intention of having a relationship with. Men and women do this to each other in their in ways. However, the headfuck a man experiences from being played from pretty girls hits some hard. I got played for 3 months by a siren of beauty, who I later learned was showing everything I said via text to her friends, they, as a group, lead guys on. It’s a game. Imagine how humiliating that feels. Even more so than a girl being played for a one night stand. I needed therapy to start talking to women again. 3 year’s on and I’m still not over it. These girls spend their lives arousing that feeling of sexual attraction in a man’s programming and enjoy leading on and brutally crushing them. And the fems and you, above, say I feel entitled? Does a man who lies for a one night stand then tells the girl where to go, does the woman have relationship ‘entitlement’. no. She’s had her bio urge for a mate exploited.

My rule of thumb is to ignore any woman who overtly sexy. 1. They are chased by every man and his dog, usually have had 100s partners. 2. They have inflated sense of ego 3. You’ll be fighting dudes off you’re whole life 4. You stand a better chance getting sex by ignoring them, by showing backbone.

Back on topic, yes, I feel the rage when they pass me in the street. Of course, I want them. But gentleman, be aware the majority of attractive women are utterly spoiled and most have a terrible opinion of men, hence the ‘entitlement’ bullshit above.

As a woman, i understand that women like to dress up and feel sexy when going out. we will spend hours on our hair and makeup, now myself, I like to feel sexy and beautiful when going out. I Dont think that we should be dressing any more modest for men. First of all we don’t dress up for men, sure as women we like to feel noticed and we want to feel wanted because that is the way women are hard wired, we like the attention on us, But most of the time women dress up for other women. I feel that women like to dress up to look better than the next female. Girls are always trying to be the best dressed in the room, the hottest, the cutest, its all competition between girls. Its not always about dressing up for men. Men need to understand that its not always about them.

I believe that social pressure is one out of many factors that make men believe that women dress for their viewing pleasure. Yes, I have seen many females flaunt their women features but I do believe that they are more pressured to look that way from social factors. We tend to always follow popular culture each and every generation. Little by little women have shown more skin that the previous decade. If men are being provoked to rape on the basis of what a female may be wearing during this time of age, what would it be 10 years from now when women will most likely have less to wear than today?

This is a topic i understand very well. The reason being that on one hand attractive women make me angry, on the other hand im not angry at them is just that the event ‘seeing a attractive woman’ triggers angry inside me. I know they are not trying t hurt me, and i think they can dress as however they like.

So i understand why is stupid to fault women for your anger but i also undrrstand how the anger occurs, the main ingredient that turna that anger into victim blaming, desire for revenge and resentment is entitlrment. Because i dont feel entitled i dont blame women for my anger. Instead i know that it its my shyness and lack of datinf skills and general social awkardness’ s fault so im angry toward these flaws.

I’m going to take a wild guess and think many guy’s have the mixture of pleasure, and I wouldn’t say hate, but frustration when seeing some beautiful, sexy women and not being with them. I think it boils to hate when a man is so low in self esteem or insecurity, as well as maybe personal experiences to cause him to hate women. Frustration can cause some resentement ,but not usually to the extent of hate. The guys who only get pleasure out of seeing women, I think are guys who are extroverted and not afraid to talk to women and have had many dates or sex with women. Therefore, there isn’t an anxiety or frustration with beautiful girls, and not seeing it as a tease as much, because they were born with the gift of gab and can talk to strangers easily. My buddy was like that, it was always pretty easy for him to take chances and talk to girls as he just always had things to talk about or it was just easier for him. Being social is easier for some people compared to others. It’s like how some people are naturally good at directions while others are terrible right?

I think the anger and jealousy, well this is kind of speculation as I don’t know all men. But from my male perspective, I think the biggest resentment or why there is. It’s not necessarily because they can’t have sex with these women or they feel women are flaunting them, Well the sane ones don’t think that. But I think it’s the frustration men have toward women in the sense that men resent women, since women don’t have to feel or know what it feels like to have the visual arousal and urge men have, but can’t have sex with a woman. Men resent, I think the lack of lust and urge women have towards their bodies, so women have no idea what it;s like and how powerless men feel of their sexuality since it doesn’t provoke near the same response or frustration, plus how easily women can have sex and even with a guy much better looking than her and how it doesn’t stop woemn in their tracks or bother them to not have sex from that man.

You keep saying women dont dress sexy for attention, they do it for there own self esteem??! (yeah self esteem.. which means they want to feel desirable, ie: they want to be attractive, ie: the want attention, which makes their self esteem go up) it all comes back to the same thing. its natural for men and women to both want to feel desriable, thats nature. All humans are slaves to their biological cravings. I have never felt entitled to a womens body, but i do feel (almost) uncontrolable desire for womens bodies. This is why prostitution should be legal, it would be a much safer and happier society. legalize drugs (less ppl will do drugs) legalize prostituion (less ppl will rape)

I’m an attractive female and I’ve been treated like total crap by a number of guys for no reason at all. The only thing I could come up with was they were intimidated in some way. Sad! Women who are attractive are normal people like everyone else. I wish people would quit thinking we’re this way or that way. Get real.

I agree with this post. I put a cute outfit together; do my hair, and makeup to make myself feel better. There is nothing better than feeling extremely confident because I feel put together. I am single and I definitely do not spend over an hour in the morning or getting ready to go out to impress random guys who may or may not be my soul mate. I definitely do not do it so that men get pleasure or so that they can get power over me. Although, When I was in a relationship I did curl my hair and do my makeup when we had date nights to make my boyfriend at the time smile a little bit more or to shock him a little bit. Now that I am single I realize that I shouldn’t have done all of that because that’s the only time he would smile a lot or “get more butterflies”. Taking a step back women in relationships should feel beautiful without the help of a male and to find their own confidence within.

I feel that most if not all women are just as attracted to each other as men are. This has been my take for a long time their figure is as aluring to them as the opposite sex thus jealousy always reins supreme over all females and they compete with eachother ! Ive seen rage and spats start over just this thing complete strangers! It not you guys they are impressing .I give up on stupid humanity and its evolution to procreate. Lots easier living single. Cheaper too

I never knew men felt this way. I remember going out to a club when I was in my twenties. It was my 24th birthday I knew I was looking good that day and so did the men at that club. a few guys approached me. I told them I was waiting for someone they became bitter and mean to me. The start calling me stuck up or you think you’re too good for me. Just foolish words of that nature. Now that I read this blog it clear to me why my ex behave the way he did when I would dress up and go out with my sisters. He would say things like you think you’re all that or I hope you’re not going out to meet another man. When I first meet him he said he didn’t think I would give him the time of day and most females as myself would date basketball players or a man with lots of money according to my ex. How funny.

I think this is not only happened with man. Both men and women will feel the same way if they try to gain attention from another attractive once and get nothing back in return. Some people know how to reject another without giving them a bad time, but some people is too harsh into getting attention and get angry after all. I think hot and attractive girl in general get more hit from guys and some time it make them feel uncomfortable. Some guys don’t have enough patience and they just want to get attention so they feel angry. Most guys like pretty and hot girl but not most of them have a chance to get along with pretty girl. Some guys take it as failure and get mad but I think most guy just let it go and find another attractive girl whom may like them back. As human, men and women always want to look good and like pretty people.

Let’s make a “flipping gender” on this subject.

How women feel, react and what do they think about “pretty men”?

I guess they are more “indifferent”, they may notice a good looking guy and that’s it.

Honestly, I can say I have never felt this way (I am male). Whether women (and men) dress to get the attention of the opposite or same sex, or for whatever reason, I really just wish humans could stop being so vain and shallow. This article just points out how we judge by appearances so much.
Of course, it will take a great deal of work to change such things.

I’ve read that rape is about men wanting to assert power, but I’ve never heard that it’s about retaliation. It’s very interesting that a man would feel like he is entitled to a woman’s body. I wonder what about society would make him feel that way. As a girl, the only thing obvious to me about men and society is that they are expected to not express as many emotions as women. Women are expected to look nice, but what does that have to do with men feeling aggressive?

I don’t necessarily believe a girl dresses attractively not for men, but for their own self-esteem. I mean yes, of course it has to do with her self-esteem, but I think it’s tied to her self-esteem because of the expectations of men. The women who dress “sexy” tend to get more attention from men. While I am not asking for superficial relationships, I know it would be nice to be noticed by more guys. At the same time, perhaps it’s because men have come to believe they have the right to act that way towards these women, and not because they don’t find me attractive….

One Friday night after a long day of rehearsal, I went out with my boyfriend for a night on the town. My bf picked me up straight from my dance class and I didn’t have an extra pair of clothes (this wasn’t a planned outing) so I was just going to go in my t-shirt, dance shorts, and tights. It wasn’t anything inherently risque but I suppose my shorts could be considered a little tight and/or short for everyday wear, so my boyfriend told me to put on his sweats. The reason I had had no problem going out in these shorts was because I was used to wearing them all the time for dance and I didn’t exactly see a huge problem especially since you couldn’t see anything and my tights held everything in. My boyfriend on the other hand thought they were far too short and that I should cover up. He informed me that he didn’t want other guys to fawn over me but it struck me as odd since he had never told me to cover up before. I had worn these same shorts out to eat after dance several times without a word from him. I almost was off-put by such a request since he himself is one I notice fawning over or at least staring (for longer than just a glance) at very attractive women every time we’re together. Both the hypocrisy and the small act of control bothered me about this situation. And it got me thinking about how other men would view me in these shorts. My intention of wearing these shorts was not purposeful and it hadn’t even occurred to me that men would look. Though I did not think they were sexual in any way. Then I thought about how I view other women who wear tight yoga pants around town and I realized I had always assumed they knew exactly what they were thinking when they put them on. Perhaps I was wrong. And I know many guys who would stare openly and even rave about women who wore yoga pants. Now, I have friends who are girls who wear yoga pants and do not use them to work out in. Maybe this is where I got my assumption from. Either way, it made me realize that yes, perhaps guys would stare at me in my dance shorts. Though not once would it have crossed my mind that dressing sexy or even in something that accentuates a sexualized body part would I frustrate a man. Even when I have purposefully worn something that I thought my body looked good in, I had no intention of ever going out just to show off and reject men. And as an attractive women (or so I’ve been told), I resent the idea that men would feel resentment from that, haha. It does seem like men take things very personal, but I believe than women do as well. But perhaps seeking power for oneself by dressing sexy could seem like seeking power over others. I have only heard the girl’s side on this though, never the guy’s: in which they feel powerless to the women. I know women who love the idea of feeling sexy because they know they’ll get attention from a man (which does give them a certain amount of power over men) but I have never heard a woman say she loves the idea of being able to reject men if she purposefully dresses in a way to draw them in. I myself have felt empowered by wearing an attractive outfit or by doing my makeup to enhance my looks but I have also felt inferior to other women who might have done it better. And I think that’s what some men might be overlooking. That no matter how much power we think we have, it’s still probably not enough, which is why we like attention. And it’s not our fault if we don’t find a particular man attractive, but for most women, I’m going to have to agree that we do not purposefully enjoy rejecting or purposefully ignore a man to empower ourselves. In fact, it’s probably to feel good enough to be able to “land” (get the attention of) an extremely attractive man so we ourselves are not rejected or ignored.

Wow there is so much to this topic, to be honest I never saw men’s anger towards pretty women as a power struggle. What an insight full view. It really makes sense, if a women by being beautiful, make a man feel like she has all the power, in this world and society of men having most the most power at all times, would shake a man down to his core.I do agree not all men have that view or rather way of thinking, but it got my thinking, I have this guy friend who only dates girls he feels are unattractive. So one evening I got bold and asked him why are all of the girls he has dated not near as good looking as him. His replay at the time made sense to me, but after reading this blog, my opinion has shifted. Back to his response, he told me that ugly women (his words) treat men better then pretty women, so he only date women that are considerably less attractive then himself. I first thought that perhaps he had a point, but as I dug deeper, why are women placed into these two categories? Pretty=mean, and ugly=nice. This can’t be the only explanation to his rational to date below his attraction potential. Now that I think about it I strongly feel that his real goal in all this, is that if he is the better looking one of the couple, he could either get away with more, thus always having the upper hand, aka having the most power in the relationship. Needless to say his all relationships thus far have failed for him. On the other end of the spectrum, we have men that feel women are objects to be looked at. In turn wanting women to dress according to such a role for there pleasure. So wheres is the middle ground? Can’t we dress nice and look good with out being assumed to be a bad girl that will treat men badly, and are asking for it, in the terms of sex. Or do we have to dress badly and make ourselves look less attractive in order to be seen as a good nice girl. For my self, the reason why I dress up and do my hair and makeup, is to feel good about me, not for anyone or their thoughts.

This is interesting, I see this a lot on social media networks. I noticed that when pretty girls get a lot of attention on social media such as Facebook and instagram, males are quick to judge. Coming from my personal perspective a lot of my friends see this and start assuming. They say things like, she’s a flirt, she’s a hoe, she probably sleep with all the guys that commenting on her page. Just stuff like that. its always the negative things that come out first

I think the article is right because most girls dress in ways that make them happy. We don’t have to dress in provocative clothing to make ourselves happy though because most of the time the way they dress isn’t because they want to impress someone. Even if you do dress to impress someone you shouldn’t need to feel to impress someone. You should get someone to like you for your personality instead of appearances. Technically men should not have any say in how a girl should dress. They shouldn’t even feel that they have to “power” to own a women’s body either. No one should be able to have control over someone else’s body because everyone has their own right to do whatever they want their body.

Correction: Men don’t hate PRETTY woman, they hate pretty woman they crave and CAN’T HAVE.
But I know that when I dress up, it’s for myself and feeling good about MYSELF. Of course being noticed by a guy would boost my self-esteem. But it also depends how a guy were to approach me. Being humble and respectful would win me over than a guy who’s willing to buy me things with a cocky attitude. Men have to think about too when seeing a pretty girl. Although we may look like we know we look pretty at times it’s possible that on the inside we may just feel uncomfortable that a guy is staring at us because we look bad. Insecurities and egos are always misunderstood.

“To those who think that women flaunt their beauty as they laugh and degrade you, know that that’s not what’s happening. Women are simply trying to do what society tells them to do: look beautiful.”

Society also tells them to be loyal:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/10357829/Why-do-women-initiate-divorce-more-than-men.html

To provide for their family domestically:
http://www.mydaily.com/2011/02/04/women-under-30-losing-lady-skills-like-cooking-and-cleaning/

This post gives me a better understanding about how guys feel. I see where they are coming from. That they would feel frustrated if they see a girl wearing something that would grab their attention and when they show interest they are shot down, but I don’t agree with the fact where it make them want to have some type of revenge which might lead to rape. This is just not acceptable. Yes sometimes a woman might dress showing a little too much skin but this is not to make a guy angry. It’s to make us feel good. Or sometimes girls dress up just because they want to. Yeah maybe some times girls take it too far and maybe they should take it down a few levels because sometime I see some girl that wear dresses that are way too short or reveling so with this I agree that it’s too much, but not every girl with do this. Men and women both like to be looked at and feel desired; it’s an emotion that everyone likes to feel.

I find this article extremely interesting mainly due to the fact that the rejected perspective of men is not something so often talked about. As a woman, I am constantly being told which hair products to use, make up tricks to apply, and trendy clothes to wear. Whether or not I choose to present myself provocatively with low cut shirts or short skirts, looking my best is always on the forefront of my mind and definitely something I can’t shake even for just a day. I never took the time to think about what I am asking from men by buying into the cultural norms that women are told they need to buy into. Am I looking for attention by wearing make up and dressing nicely or looking to blend in by wearing the right things that are culturally/socially/seasonably acceptable? A woman trying to stay away from negative attention by wearing the right things might be perceived as trying too hard, looking for attention, or “asking for it.” It was an interesting opinion to hear an aggressive/violent response from a man simply assuming that an attractive woman wouldn’t be interested in him and then hating her for it. For women, it is a double edged sword to be objectified. Our beauty we are told to highlight and the appreciation of it is something we are told to strive for, but judgments made solely on our appearance are unquestionably dehumanizing. I had never considered the snowball effect of media telling women to look a certain way, (women buying into it, women dealing with the response of men to this cultural-driven manifestation) having an adverse effect on the men whom we are told to get dolled-up for in the first place.

I’ve seen this happen a lot in society today. The whole, is she dressing for me or is she dressing for herself, situation. Basically it all depends on the point of view. To the women she could be dressing for herself and doesn’t want any attention from anyone. On the other hand some women dress “sexy” just for the attention, negative or positive. Men on the other hand, I believe it all depends on their mental state. If a man is positive about his self image then he wouldn’t feel threatened about a women dressing “sexy,” he would see it as “this women is in my league and I have every right to approach her.” In other situations some males, and females, have lower self-esteem so they see provocatively dressed women as a threat to there “place” as men. And in some cases it gives men, in their minds, the “right” to take advantage of this women to “put her in her place.” This is rape people and shouldn’t be justified due to their lower self esteem. I can’t seem to wrap my brain around the concept.

The college chaplain’s claim that, “The way young women dress in the spring constitutes a sexual assault upon every male within eyesight of them,” could be partially true to some men who tend to be more aggressive towards women. I would like to believe that men in general do not look at women as sex objects but as beautiful beings whom they can admire. As a woman, I think that women has the right to look good and pleasing but not to be overly seductive in the way they should dress if they want to gain the respect of people especially men. Women should dress up to look beautiful, not slutty.

Many times I see women who wear very short shorts, very low breasted cuts, and too much makeup that I tend to think that they are seeking attention from the opposite sex and to perhaps make other women jealous of their appearance. Though I may never know what their reasoning is behind doing so, I strongly believe that men can either admire them or share the same opinion as me about them but in no way should think that they are entitled to women’s bodies.

There’s a line in I Overate Because I Felt Guilty Eating that really sticks with me: Food was both magic and evil. That’s a noxious combination, known to create obsessions and addictions.

Men who hate pretty women sure seem to see them as both magic and evil. Obsessed and addicted? Sounds about right. How else to explain the enduring idea that seeing a woman leads to attraction leads to rape, complete with horrible analogies comparing men to beasts and women to (wait for it) food?

Men who hate pretty women wouldn’t hate them so much if they didn’t love them too. This quote from a battering mother, about her love/hate object (her child), limns the dynamic with chilling frankness: I have never felt loved all my life. When the baby was born, I thought he would love me. When he cried, it meant he didn’t love me. So I hit him.

Some Guy, above, writes that what he hates is how pretty women make him feel, not the pretty women themselves. He writes that men like him are “measuring their self-worth based on their success with women.” Thus:
Some Guy and other men like him already believe they are worthless.
They are (completely naturally) drawn to pretty women.
But the women reject them, either implicitly (by not knowing they exist) or explicitly (with varying degrees of kindness, depending on how much the women believe the “if he likes me but I don’t like him, he must be a creeper” meme).
American society generally doesn’t let these men take their frustration out directly on the women (unless the woman is a prostitute; see Lenora Frago), but neither does it provide any helpful coping mechanisms. (“You’re a man, pretend you don’t have emotions”) doesn’t count.
Men and women both lose.

Compare this cycle of pain to that of the battering mother and her child, above.

Some Guy blames “primal survival instincts,” which makes it sound like the problem is rooted in biology and impossible to fix. This is not true. The problem is psychological and possible to ease, even if only slightly.

Society, i.e. one’s parents, teachers, and role models, male peers, potential female partners, and the media, tells men that they have to get women to be “worthy”, but doesn’t provide any real help or compassion to the “unworthy” (scare quotes 100% intentional).

In the long term, we can work at changing society. In the short term, you can work at changing your own thinking.
Your success with women does NOT determine your self-worth.
Other people (including the women themselves) can think so if they want, but they’re wrong and you know it.
You CAN want sex, very much, but still enjoy looking at a pretty woman on her own merits without needing more.
Most pretty women walking down the street are NOT laughing at you or reveling in their power over you.
The ones that are (i.e. “teases”) don’t do it because they’re evil sirens. They do it because they’re people, and sometimes people aren’t very nice. So what if some women have bad personalities? They only have as much power over you as you give them. You don’t have to look at them, think about them, or care what they think of you if you don’t want to.
Wanting revenge for pretty women existing is irrational, and is caused by your unmet emotional needs.
Women are people, like you. They too may behave irrationally due to unmet emotional needs.
You deserve to try to fulfill your unmet emotional needs in healthy ways.
You are flawed, but you are of immeasurable worth. The same goes for all the pretty women, too.

Not true a lot of the anger comesxcfrom the fact western women have impossible standards that only the top men can reach guys such as myself get treated like dirt in twenties and are then expected to act a beta provider for some woman who viewed us as unworthy when they were young. For example I’m short spent my entire being treated like dirt by women because of it. I have never had a relationship thanks to my height so yeah my hatred is valid

I can understand where both sides are coming from. As a far as myself, I dress for my own self-esteem. I feel beautiful when I dress a certain way, and if I happened to get hollered at, Yay for me, because I’m not the only one who thinks so. I’ll be damned though, if some guy gets mad at me for dressing how I did; I didn’t do it for their sexual pleasure. It’s very interesting that some guys feel this way; it’s not a women’s fault though if a guy can’t control their sexual urges.

I don’t know where Kimmel got his idea that men feel entitled to womens bodies. Did he conduct a study that revealed this? How about a link to it so we may evaluate if its application is flawed.

Men don’t feel entitled to womens bodies, we feel desirious for them and have an urge to enjoy them like we are designed to do. Don’t blame men, blame nature.

Kimmel is accurate regarding retaliation, nobody likes being misled or teased. The problem is that women have become conditioned to use the feminine prowess to gain control, and get what they want. The college chaplain is right, men are visually assaulted constantly by women revealing their physique. Society accepts that because it’s not externally violent like a man raping a woman, but it’s a form of psychological torture…look but don’t touch, ignore your natural inclination to procreate. It’s essentially a form of passive aggression.

The only entitlement I’ve witnessed is women feeling it’s their right to dress as revealing as they wish, tease any man they wish, and to use their physique to an advantage. I’ve worked with many women, and my female bosses ignored my complaints about the onslaught of cleavage, (my concern being it promoted an environment where someday someone could say I sexually harrassed her because I inadvertently saw her cleavage), they created the sexually hostile environment, and it’s accepted by the establishment. Why is it okay for women to show their cleavage, bare midriffs and butt cleavage, and wear tightly revealing clothing, yet if a man was to wear tight pants that revealed an outline of his genitals there would an uproar. Women are blind their sexist and harassing behaviors.

Actually, the entitlement of anothers body is the belief of women. They think they can have sex with any man they want, while it’s usually true, that doesn’t make it right. If you want to see a show of anger and resentment, look at a woman who has been rejected by a man, but rather than the violence that’s made out to be the sole domain of men, women retaliate with scorn and sometimes life altering accusations or spiteful falsehoods to hurt their rejector. Yet society accepts these things because…oh, it’s just women being the emotional creatures that they are…and not an outward show of dominance…just a passive agressive double standard.

Women always complain about the sexualizing of female images, but rather than cover up and refuse to be subjected to its societal effects, they are the first to partake so they won’t be left behind, or deemed unattractive by other women. Men don’t facilitate societies sexualization of women, women do by dressing and acting like the women they see in media and entertainment. Little girls want to be like Beyonce, and their mothers are okay with that?! The idols of little girls…Brittany Spears, Miley Cyrus et al. Men aren’t the ones taking their daughters to these concerts, dressing their daughters like vixenish whores, being an example of a dolled-up cleavage baring sex kitten.

Women need to take responsibility for themselves and their gender, and stop placing the blame on men. Women are not victims, their decisions, actions, and constant competitiveness with other women make them co-conspirators.

This is a very interesting topic. From my perspective, some men are intimidated by women who show their class through their appearance. Those men will think that they don’t stand a chance to get those “high-class” girls, and this feeling will turned into jealousy and hatred toward the women.

This is a pretty interesting thinking. Most of the time, we were told that all men will like pretty women while ignoring all other qualities from that women. I am quite surprised to know some men will actually hate some pretty women. This kind of comment reflects how gender is constructed in our society. Men are taught to be strong and ‘protect’ women while women are taught to be dependent on men, might be not physically, but psychologically. As men need to be superior than women and gain control of them, being too pretty might hurt the self-esteem of men because men might feel they no longer can control women.　

To the women in this comment section all i have to say is this, it’s not easy walking around in public a young virile man, looking at hot women in the same age range and never ever getting the slightest bit of acknowledgment and when attempting to instigate some getting the cold shoulder or the “why are you even talking to me?” face,

I have to second guess everything i do when i get this reaction but no matter what i do to try and improve myself this is what happens, I’m sure it’s the same with extremely average looking woman trying to talk to good looking guys. it’s not so much a feeling of entitlement or even sexual as it is constantly wanting positive recognition from a person who either treats you like a ghost or a roach standing next to them, not to sound to sensitive and needy, it just gets to me a little.

This topic just confirmed all the fears I have always had for my younger sister. She is gorgeous and gets attention everywhere she goes. She has had a stalker, men at work hating her for no reason, and dozens of male “friends” that eventually confess their love for her. She may look extremely feminine on the outside, but she’s always had a strong-willed personality. Sometimes I wonder if the same guys who get angry when she doesn’t notice them would get even more angry when they realize doesn’t have a docile “feminine” personality. Would that further drive their desire to have control? Whenever she goes out to clubs I always remind her to be safe; stay in groups and don’t drink too much. Especially because she has a little one tucked in waiting for her return.

I hate to say this, but I think men are being forced to evolve out of the whole “I’m under a woman’s power because of how she looks” victimization they lay claim to. (and yes, I know women work this program to death and take advantage at the same time they bitch about it) It doesn’t help that our media and porn compounds this over and over, and twists what might have been a natural urge of men to notice a woman into a compulsion that harms both them and women (and yes, we women have our own compulsions programmed into us by the media we have to break out of too). I can wear a burlap sack and go to the store and will find some guy staring at my boobs that I thought were hidden. I think it’s an epidemic, personally. Porn and the media is poisoning relationships between men and women in this country on both sides.

As a woman, if I perceive something has “power” over me, I know this is an illusion, and I will change myself or my belief system and habits so it no longer has power, whether it be an addiction, an interaction, etc. I did this with men. Men can do it with women if they choose. They are not victims of us (just as we don’t have to be victims of theirs)

Men have chosen over thousands of years to soley consider women by the physical, and now they are paying the price for it. They are visual drug addicts on a mass level, addicted to seeing a female image that does not love them and to have that instead of intimacy and are being asked to see into women and who they are instead of just their bodies. They will keep experiencing predatory women who will use their looks to in turn use the men in this regard until they wake up. The pendulum always swings the other way (and that goes for the ladies too who also indulge in the victimization programming.)

I think a big factor is that men are programmed (from my observation) to ignore their own heart and feelings constantly. This means in general, they cannot respect the hearts and feelings of their mates. Maybe if they stopped indulging in the high they get in looking at the female image and look into their hearts they could heal some of the hurt their and improve their relationships with women and upgrade the kind of woman they attract into their lives.

Just another example of men believing women should be punished for their own bad deeds (aka sexual harassment). Keep externalizing that blame, sociopaths. Society encourages it after all….

Many men who cant get the attention of a beautiful girl do get upset, and in order to release their anger they may try to harm that person. Men should not get angry if a pretty women does not pay any attention to them, they should learn to control their anger and also realize that there might be another women out there who is more than happy to talk to them. A beautiful women’s intentions are not to make men feel angry, but her real intentions are to be able to dress up and look good for herself. I love to dress well and show a little when I go out, but to me is not to grab any once’s attention or create anger, it is to show the world that I am confident about my looks. Men that cant tolerate the beautiful looks of a women is because they lack confidence and have a low self esteem.

I have enjoyed this post and some of the informative follow-up from the author. I find the comments from poster Lynn to be particularly intelligent, because that person has listened to some arguments, done some research and changed perspectives because of it. A few of the other people who disagree with the article have lost credibility with me by trying too hard to defend their every little phrase or idea, never backing down once, thinking that’s the only way to be “right” in the end. Still more have taken the article personally. To these people, I would like to point out that the sociologist who researched and wrote the article may just have something to teach us– perhaps not about you, personally, but about our culture and some of the trends in it. If you are not part of that trend, you would most likely be part of the voice against it. And some of us found the article because we have already noticed the trend (men resenting attractive women) and have searched for studies or insight into it. Accordingly, our minds will not likely be changed by someone who hates the idea in the article and is hell-bent on declaring it as a load of bull– angrily– while appearing to take it kind of personally. Rather, if someone has a sympathetic and reasoned argument that points out some of the truths but argues respectfully against some of the other parts of the article, such a person might win someone over to his side, Or you could just stubbornly post your prejudices, defend them, and use the forum to convince all these anonymous strangers that you, personally, are an awesome dude and no woman will ever control you with her evil sultry looks. But while you’re at it, you might throw in some kind of statement that all women are exactly the same, differing only in looks. Unless you can get people to believe that, your entire argument will fail and you’ll end up painfully debating every tiny point to save your ego which will start to look smaller and smaller to your readers as you proceed. Just some pointers for some of you who appeared to need some help. Again, great article.

Unfortunately in our society women are still thought of as less equal, even by intellectual people. One of my friends is a brilliant mathematician and physicist and he is very analytical about everything but when it comes to evaluating woman he sais that the main quality of woman is her beaity and intelligence is not important. He also sais that all the intelligent women that he have known throughout his life are not beautiful and thus not attractive and therefore will never be his girlfriends. I think that means that women should still fight for their rights as the current situation is immoral.

The more interesting question is why, instead of dealing directly and honestly with the most basic aspects of male sexuality, women often invent such asinine theories like “men feel entitled to women’s bodies”. Why? Is it, perhaps, because if they were to admit that they do have the power to mess up with our biochemistry, they would also have to accept responsibility for that power, something that the modern feminists teach them to avoid at all costs?

And whoever confidently uses the word swag. Grow the hell up. I mean talk about control. Some rapper uses it to define how fake u can make youjself to score a chick. And now ppl see being fake in a positive light . Let’s wait for next hiphop vocab to coome out and watch the fools jump on the band wagon

I have one objection to way this article describes this phenomenon. I have some resentment towards the power women have over me but I have never felt entitled to a woman’s body as this article suggests. To me the resentment is aimed more at my stupid primate brain that fills my blood stream with chemicals that make me think I NEED women to be a valid male. It’s our primal survival instincts that have programmed men into measuring their self-worth based on their success with women.

I’m sure there are plenty of men out there who DO feel entitled to a women’s body and that then turns into resentment but I wanted to make the point that this is not always the source of the resentment. Some of us just wish we could turn that switch off in our brains a little easier. Louis CK’s bit on Live @ Beacon Theater called “Constant Sexual Thoughts” explains what I’m talking about.

This article seems pretty straight foward to me, males with high self esteem feel like women dress like sex objects to please the, males with low self esteems see it as way of women laughing at them, and women are just doing it to fit into society. Strange that something so simple is made into such a big issue. Males are almost determinng their self worth by wether or not they can get these beautiful women. In the animal kindom males are the ones with the beauty, they try to stand out. Some do mating dances,others flaunt their bright colors. In our society women are the ones trying to fit into this high standard yet its almost like the men are trying stand out aswell. Insted of the flaunting their own beauty it’s the number of beautiful women around them.

This article reminds me of one of my experiences at the bar with my guy friend. He spotted a hot girl at the end of the bar with her friends dancing very provocatively. She had a low cut top with a short skirt. My friend, who is a handsome and nice guy, approached her just for her to instantly reject him. My friend came back to me and said, “Why do girls dress like they’re just begging for attention but reject every guy that approaches them?” Before, women used to dress to impress men, but nowadays, more women are dressing for themselves. However some women tend to dress extra sexy to grab men’s attention for an ego boast, not to actually entice men. This is a misleading cue that confuses men.

This article was fairly surprising to me. I don’t understand how anybody could feel entitled to another person’s body, especially when they don’t even know the other person. I think the men that feel this way have a very distorted view of reality; the same with those who think that dressing provocatively is a valid reason for rape. These men need to understand that the female is dressing for herself, or even other females, not so that a male can be tortured by her beauty. I agree in thinking that men need to view women as equals, but also think that they should learn that they are in the definite wrong for assuming they are entitled to any part of a female.

This article reminds of a “rape myth” I recently learned about. It talks about women dressing “proactively” invites a man to rape her. It totally disgusts me. Men can have as many feelings, or insecurities as they please yet nothing gives a man an excuse to rape a women. I can understand a man feeling hurt by rejection or insecure around a women they think to be sexy. As humans we have certain feelings and ways of thinking. This is different among men and women. However, those feelings should be controlled if they cause violent incidents to occur. As far as beauty goes it does in the eye of the beholder. What is gorgeous to one may be hitious to another. What should women do? Not dress and look how they as individuals feel? Never wear make up or high heels? No. No they should’t. We as humans need to learn that everything is not as we believe. Some things do not have to be so serious. In tribal cultures women walk around half nude. Why can’t our society accept and respect sexiness, and masculinity?

If people just let people exist this wouldn’t be an issue. Everyone wants to tell people what do do, what to wear, how to act. PEOPLE! Just exist and deal with yourself and your needs!

I’ve never heard a story where a half naked guy was walking all sexy like down the beach and a woman thought, “Man that guy is asking to get raped.” Most women dress to flatter their figure because they want attention, just not the holler or whistle on a street corner kind. If you think a lady looks bangin in that dress go up to her and say, “Wow I hope you don’t mind me saying, but you’re beautiful.” Unless she’s a B*TCH she’ll blush, accept the complement and either start a conversation or walk away. What’s wrong with giving someone a complement and NOT expecting them to come lay with you? Can’t people just appreciate the female form without having to touch it?

AND FOR THE LADIES: if a guy pays you a compliment and he has a pimple or really big nose that doesn’t mean he’s a creep. Maybe you’re beautiful and he thought you should be told, everyone needs to be told they’re beautiful every once in a while. =]